Resolution

After the last post, sometime in the late night/early morning she called me. We talked a little less animated than before. You know, she was about to agree with how I felt, before I lost my temper and drew my own line in the sand. God was working in her heart as he had been with mine. We ended up talking until about 4:30am. She reluctantly agreed to ending the platonic relationship with her ex, and that she wouldn't bother me about my parents, as they are out of my control and I cannot change their behavior. She did give in and she did call me (usually it is the other way around). Today, I realized how special that was. I also realized how wrong I was. It is not love to make demands. I have plenty of reasons, excuses and defenses for my demanding ultimatums...but I apoligized to her. She accepted my apologies.

I do know her, and she knows me. Even though we weren't talking much, things were really progressing on the spiritual front. We are both maturing as believers. We have peace about each other, although there are real questions if this is truly what God wants us to do. But we will keep seeking God and we have faith that He will change my parents views, or he will enable us to deal with their opposition. Or...he will show us that we are not meant to marry each other. I can truly say at this point, that both of us will be able to walk away (hurting, a little) if God shows us that we are not to marry. It won't be easy, but we will submit to His plan for our lives. Pleasing God is the most important thing in our lives.

I wonder if a non-Christian reads this blog, they would probably have a negative view of us and Christians in general. As Asians (Indians) we are particulary sensitive to other opinions of ourselves. But the point is that belief in Jesus is a journey, we start out a certain way and improve and become better spiritually. I hope some evidence is here showing progress, perhaps not apparent, but if you look deeper maybe you can see some progress.

In summary, we are two Indian Christians (she converted to Christianity from Hinduism four years ago) who were introduced to each other by my Christian parents. It was intended to be an "arranged" marriage, that is in the Indian sense--the parents choosing spouses and the "children" making a final decision. About six months after the initial meeting, my parents were completely against us marrying. At first they had given their approval for us to marry, but a brief time in India, where we spent some time together, and meeting between us without my parents knowlege, along with plenty of slander, gossip, and truth made my parents change. Now we wait...we have received counsel, and have been willing to compromise, to take a break (which we are), to seek God, etc. Now we just wait on God, and trust in Him.